June 2023 Topic: The need my business meets is… (What does your business solve for your clients?).
By Jamie Allen Bishop with Jamie Allen Bishop Coaching
Mindset is the key to life and while having a fixed mindset can mean comfort to some, having a growth mindset is what makes life genuinely happy. To meet and exceed the needs of my clients, they must be willing participants in changing their mindset. That is why my title is “Mindset Coach” rather than Business Coach or Life Coach. While we do work on business and personal goals, I want it to be clear that our work together involves mindset above all other goals.
If there is a lack in my client’s life – a lack of happiness, a lack of love, a lack of money – they are (without a doubt in my mind) stuck in a pattern of self-sabotage. The only way I know to shift a “lack” experience is to embrace a growth mindset.
But growth isn’t easy. Think of your favorite plant seed that must shed its outer protective shell to sprout, then grow down into the soil forming its roots, then grow up into the world where it showcases its unique talent. There’s a lot to unpack in this analogy, and that’s why it’s a great metaphor for mindset. We must dig deep to have the foundation needed to grow a stable, healthy, and happy life.
In 2010, I had a client who came to me for help with her relationship. She was in a state of crisis. Her health was struggling, her relationship was a mess, her child was ill, and her employment situation was a challenge. She was at a difficult crossroads, and her decisions would be life-altering – for more than just herself. (I felt so honored to be called upon to help her through this difficult time.)
In any relationship, making the best decision for you can sometimes feel like you’re hurting someone else, but that can also be a false perspective of the situation. The truth is that a decision best for you (your highest self, not your ego self) is ALWAYS best for all parties involved.
Here are a few examples. You want to be vegetarian, but your support system doesn’t believe in a plant-based diet. Who does your choice affect most? You want to volunteer every other year for Doctors Without Borders, but your family wants you to stay home, settle down, and “grow up.” Who does your choice affect most? Your business is struggling, and your family prefers that you “get a job.” Who does your choice affect most?
The thing is, when our decisions do not align with our family, friends, or significant others, there is not just one avenue we can take. There are multiple decisions that can be made. You can be vegetarian and still attend family BBQs. Or, better yet, you can meet for activities instead of meals. You can participate with Doctors Without Borders AND have a family life. It may not be a conventional life, but it’s a life that suits you perfectly. You can get a job AND focus on the uncomfortable steps necessary to grow your business. It all depends on your perspective and mindset. Assuming your family wants what is best for you, they will adjust to any change you make that helps you thrive.
I am happy to report that my 2010 client is healthy, and appreciating her relationship more than ever, her kiddo is doing great, and they all live in a whole other state. She worked on growing herself deeper, setting up a stable foundation of love and respect for herself, and her decisions have created a life where she is thriving. (I couldn’t be prouder of her for getting the help she needed to work through the challenges.)
When we stand firm in our decisions with love and respect for ourselves and others, we create an environment where we can thrive, not just survive. That is why a shift in mindset is the need my business meets for my clients.
